When I stopped drinking two and a half years ago, I had no idea about how much my whole life would change. How much I would change. I thought that, more or less, life would go on as it always had, just with a different drink in hand. Oh, how wrong I was…
New hobbies
At the beginning of my alcohol-free life, everything kind of stayed the same but I realised that some things I thought I’d miss a lot, I actually didn’t miss at all.
I found out that I’m a lot more introverted than I thought I was and that I really value spending time by myself. I stopped going to social appointments in which drinking was the main factor and I started to do both new things and old things that I’d stopped doing during my drinking career. I started to play Padel Tennis more, enjoyed going shopping again, visited the cinema, made alcohol-free cocktails at home, read, pottered around the house, went out for coffee, watched Netflix, chilled at home and immersed myself in the world of sobriety.
Friendships
During this transition, a really tough thing happened – I lost the closeness of some of my really good friends. Drinking is a big factor in some of my friends’ lives, as in, they really like it. When I stopped drinking, it felt a bit uncomfortable and different in a way that I find really hard to describe.
While they were totally fine about me not drinking (and some of them even seemed impressed), their lives and favourite pastimes stayed the same. I kind of missed having occasions to truly connect and found it hard to get them to meet up with me solo so we just stopped relating to each other as much. I guess when someone’s life changes this much it’s almost inevitable that certain friendships change, no matter how much love there still might be.
To be able to stay true to me and my new way of life, I had to take a step back from some of these relationships. Which was very painful and kind of felt like a break-up but I guess friendships go through different phases.
I personally found a lot of strength to stay sober, and happily so, from connecting with like-minded people. Since there weren’t many of those around in my social circle I dived into my laptop and found amazing online sober communities like this one.
